Do you recognize this person?
She gets hung up on the small stuff! Watch her dwell endlessly on little details and even ruminate about how to do things better while she should be sleeping (and letting other people sleep!).
She makes lists. Obsessively! It’s a never-ending process of writing them down and crossing them off, and gloating at every item struck off her list. She insists that others make lists too. And insists on reviewing them personally.
She believes that everything she does makes a difference! The belief in this is fervent. The belief that luck favors the hustlers, that you must keep fighting till the bitter end. And various such other inspiring quotes that populate every vertical surface these days.
The Illusion of Control
Everywhere you look, you’re being force-fed the concept that you make your own luck! That you are solely responsible for your own success! That your background & education had nothing to do with it. That the privileges that you have received due to your parents & social strata are not important. And the scary fact is that they have everything to do with who and where you are today.
Everything you read, watch or listen to today speaks the ‘underdog’ rhetoric – reach out and take control, fight and you shall conquer, keep at it and you shall succeed. Wrong. And frankly, it’s exhausting.
I for one, am tired. Of fighting, of hustling, of believing that I can control everything around me…if I try hard enough, long enough, want it badly enough. I don’t. I can’t!
I’m letting go!
I accept. That sometimes no matter how much I plan or how hard I work, things will not work out the way I want to.
I admit. That in a lot of situations I don’t know best. That I am ok with not knowing. That I can live with that. Flourish even,
I acknowledge. That I don’t always have all the answers. That sometimes life is about discovering those answers in its own sweet time.